In a world of endless swiping, ghosting, and algorithmic matchmaking, speed dating offers a refreshing, real-life alternative for singles who are ready to make meaningful connections.
Whether you’re new to dating or tired of the apps, in-person speed dating events are one of the most effective ways to meet other singles — especially if you’re looking for a fun, efficient, and low-pressure environment.
Amber Soletti, dating expert and founder of Single and the City, has been producing speed dating events in NYC, Austin, and beyond since 2008. She’s helped thousands of singles connect — with countless relationships, engagements, and marriages as a result.
So what makes speed dating such a great option? And how can you get the most out of your next event?
Why Speed Dating Works
1. Real Conversations, Real Chemistry
Unlike dating apps, where it’s easy to get caught up in texting with someone you’ll never meet, speed dating puts you face-to-face with real singles who are serious about finding a connection. You’ll have 3–5 minutes to chat with each person, giving you just enough time to sense a spark — or politely move on.
2. No Pressure, No Awkward Goodbyes
If you’re not feeling it, there’s no need to exchange numbers or come up with a creative exit. Matches are made after the event through a confidential matching system, so you only hear from the people you’re mutually interested in.
3. Meet 10–20 People in One Night
Instead of swiping endlessly or going on one date per week, speed dating lets you meet a room full of singles in just one evening. It’s efficient, energizing, and a lot more fun than sitting through another dinner date you knew wasn’t a match in the first 10 minutes.
4. Tailored for Your Demographic
Whether you’re looking for speed dating for 30s and 40s, Jewish speed dating, LGBTQ+ speed dating, or speed dating in Austin or NYC, there are events tailored to your age group, interests, and preferences.
Top Speed Dating Tips from Amber Soletti
Want to stand out and make genuine connections? Amber’s got you covered.
1. Dress to Impress
“Treat it like a first date,” Amber says. “You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Wear something that makes you feel confident, approachable, and attractive.”
2. Stay Present
Put your phone away and stay engaged. “You only have a few minutes with each person, so be present. Ask thoughtful questions and really listen — that’s how you’ll stand out.”
3. Keep It Light and Fun
“Don’t treat it like a job interview,” Amber advises. “Keep the conversation upbeat, flirty, and lighthearted. You’re here to connect, not interrogate.”
4. Don’t Judge Too Quickly
Sometimes it takes more than 5 minutes to feel chemistry. “Give people a chance,” says Amber. “Some of the best connections come from unexpected places.”
5. Be Honest on Your Match Card
At the end of the night, mark your interest only in the people you’re genuinely excited to get to know better. “Don’t match with everyone ‘just in case’ — be intentional. The best connections happen when both people are genuinely interested.”
Final Thoughts
Whether you’re new to dating or a seasoned single looking to mix things up, speed dating is a powerful, low-stress way to meet other like-minded singles in your city. It’s fast, fun, and full of potential.
So skip the small talk over yet another overpriced cocktail — and join us for a speed dating event in NYC, Austin, or beyond. Who knows? Your next great love (or at least a great story) might be just a few minutes away.
Ready to give speed dating a try?
👉 Check out upcoming events at SingleAndTheCity.com
